In a matter of three weeks time, I attended three different family reunions. Thus, I have come to some conclusions about family reunions.
Like most families, ours had many ups and downs growing up, but the one thing that we could always count on was food. We had dinner every night. Some nights it was homemade lasagna with fresh baked bread sticks. Other nights it was pancakes, but none the less, we always ate dinner. I believe that this constant of food and the full sensation some how connected through my sub-conscience with the feelings of love. So now, when I go visit my parents, I can't help but eat like a ravenous teen, mid growth spurt. This I believe is an active memory tied to love.
So now, imagine dozens people and some very fabulous cooks, plus snacks, treats and dessert -- a lot of love and a whole lot of food.
I think that all families must have a similar relation between love and food, because I was not in want for a single bite for those three weeks. I think I'm gaining an inch on my hips just thinking about it.
Conclusion #1 -- Family reunions must have an endless amount of food, and a lot of overeating.
My family are not exactly what you would call good communicators. This applies on a variety of levels, but most predominantly in the area of long distances. Every one of my siblings has a cell phone, but I couldn't tell you how few times I actually call them every year, let alone in a week.
However, this does not mean that we don't get along, or even that we aren't close. On the contrary. When we get together, such as at a reunion, there are endless amounts talking going on. The volume is high and the animation is elaborate. Despite any intentions to go to bed at a reasonable hour, it's impossible. For me, 11pm is a pretty late night, in a normal situation. At a reunion, 1am, 2 am or even 3 am seemed normal. Then a few short hours later, we rise up to start the gabbing where it left off.
Conclusion #2 -- Lack of sleep is mandatory at a family reunion.
So inevitably when you are at a family reunion you are in close quarters. Situations are bound to arise. At one of my reunions I got my feelings hurt from a comment. However, when you're sleeping in the same place, your rooms sharing a wall, it's difficult to find space to get over a tiff. Another situation, we were sleeping outside, and despite the fact that I am an over-packer and readily prepared; I still almost froze to death because of my five big blankets, I was left with one small blankie, the others being used by someone not as prepared. What's yours is mine, right?
Conclusion #3 -- Boundries are temporarily redrawn in reunion situations.
I love my family. But it is a good thing that we don't have a year round family reunion, because I would weigh another two or three hundred pounds, be completely sick and sleep deprived, and quite ornery from invasion of personal space.
But I can't wait to hear what we have planned for next year!!